Assault Hospitality

"You don't hurry a thinker
and you don't talk to him when he's thinking;
it's just inconsiderate."

from "Fluke" by Christopher Moore

Garrison Keillor calls it "moodism"  where every one has to be the same mood.
"Come on', they say, 'lighten up, have fun'
"Well, it makes me uneasy"

I've heard it called "intimate thuggery" --when others invade our thoughts and feelings so agressively